benitathegirl

22 days to 22 years

I can’t believe this! It’s like I was turning 9 two years ago! I’m just too young for this age 🥺. When I turned 21, I gave myself the permission to become more—more honest, more curious, more present, more grounded in who I am. There was a certain clarity that came with 21; in whatContinue reading “22 days to 22 years”

Signed, Sealed and Delivered 🎓!

Today, I graduate from the University of Benin with a bachelor’s degree in Medical Laboratory Science. I still remember the day my dad told me that he intended to send me to Uniben in Benin City, Edo State, to study pharmacy. At the time, I didn’t have a serious future ambition, so I didn’t mindContinue reading “Signed, Sealed and Delivered 🎓!”

21 days to 21 years

When I turned 20, I became pregnant – pregnant with dreams, goals, visions, and aspirations for my life. I’m truly grateful to God for the future I see. Looking back on the past 344 days of being 20, I realize that it has been filled with significant personal growth and transformation since my teen years.Continue reading “21 days to 21 years”

Heartbreak, the girl.

I hate love. I hate what it does to people. Trust? Easily abused. And betrayal? Leaves a metallic taste ~ a movie My pain, your pleasure. Some “when life throws you lemons, make lemonade” shit. If I’m being honest, maybe without realizing it. I think I push people away. I think sometimes, I come offContinue reading “Heartbreak, the girl.”

20 days to 20 years

I remember 7 years ago when I turned 13 and became a teenager. I wasn’t particularly pumped because I’d heard teenagers were crazy people. But I was ready to embrace the changes that came with teenage. Physical and Social and Emotional and others. The last six years have been a rollercoaster. The highs and theContinue reading “20 days to 20 years”

I finally had my first kiss!

This day three months ago, I had my first ever kiss. It wasn’t expected or planned. In fact, I didn’t even see it coming soon.I wanted to have it at 16, but things didn’t quite come through so I moved it to 18.You’re probably like, it’s just a kiss. It doesn’t need this much planningContinue reading “I finally had my first kiss!”

Grief

I remember the summer holidays of 2019 after graduating from high school. Future was so bleak and i was utterly confused about the next step. I for one didn’t want to start university right after high school but i didn’t know what i wanted to do to pass the time. And you know that thingContinue reading “Grief”

I met him. But I wish I didn’t.

I wrote this piece when i was at my worst from the heartbreak and it’s quite unfortunate that i write better when I’m in my worst mood. Anyway, here you go… “Low-key i wish I never met him. I wish he never worked up the nerves to talk to me on that cool November evening.Continue reading “I met him. But I wish I didn’t.”

Escribiendo

It’s been a minute! I won’t say i didn’t have the inspiration to write. I’d say i was just lazy to type them out and edit. I wrote out some articles i was going to publish in a journal i got in 2020, but somehow, i lost the journal. It’s been about twenty months now.Continue reading “Escribiendo”

My dating lesson at 17

Dating means setting out time to spend with someone you’re interested in, to get to know them more. Or at least, that’s what it should be. I don’t know much about relationships and dating, but I stepped in and I think I messed up. Firstly, I met this guy and a week later, i agreedContinue reading “My dating lesson at 17”