benitathegirl

23 days to 23 years

Birthday reflection, extending grace to myself. Thankful for what’s gone and hopeful for what’s still coming.

I can’t believe this! It’s like I was turning 9 two years ago! I’m just too young for this age 🥺. When I turned 21, I gave myself the permission to become more—more honest, more curious, more present, more grounded in who I am. There was a certain clarity that came with 21; in whatContinue reading “22 days to 22 years”

Signed, Sealed and Delivered 🎓!

Today, I graduate from the University of Benin with a bachelor’s degree in Medical Laboratory Science. I still remember the day my dad told me that he intended to send me to Uniben in Benin City, Edo State, to study pharmacy. At the time, I didn’t have a serious future ambition, so I didn’t mindContinue reading “Signed, Sealed and Delivered 🎓!”

21 days to 21 years

When I turned 20, I became pregnant – pregnant with dreams, goals, visions, and aspirations for my life. I’m truly grateful to God for the future I see. Looking back on the past 344 days of being 20, I realize that it has been filled with significant personal growth and transformation since my teen years.Continue reading “21 days to 21 years”

Heartbreak, the girl.

I hate love. I hate what it does to people. Trust? Easily abused. And betrayal? Leaves a metallic taste ~ a movie My pain, your pleasure. Some “when life throws you lemons, make lemonade” shit. If I’m being honest, maybe without realizing it. I think I push people away. I think sometimes, I come offContinue reading “Heartbreak, the girl.”

20 days to 20 years

I remember 7 years ago when I turned 13 and became a teenager. I wasn’t particularly pumped because I’d heard teenagers were crazy people. But I was ready to embrace the changes that came with teenage. Physical and Social and Emotional and others. The last six years have been a rollercoaster. The highs and theContinue reading “20 days to 20 years”

I finally had my first kiss!

This day three months ago, I had my first ever kiss. It wasn’t expected or planned. In fact, I didn’t even see it coming soon.I wanted to have it at 16, but things didn’t quite come through so I moved it to 18.You’re probably like, it’s just a kiss. It doesn’t need this much planningContinue reading “I finally had my first kiss!”

Grief

I remember the summer holidays of 2019 after graduating from high school. Future was so bleak and i was utterly confused about the next step. I for one didn’t want to start university right after high school but i didn’t know what i wanted to do to pass the time. And you know that thingContinue reading “Grief”

I met him. But I wish I didn’t.

I wrote this piece when i was at my worst from the heartbreak and it’s quite unfortunate that i write better when I’m in my worst mood. Anyway, here you go… “Low-key i wish I never met him. I wish he never worked up the nerves to talk to me on that cool November evening.Continue reading “I met him. But I wish I didn’t.”

Escribiendo

It’s been a minute! I won’t say i didn’t have the inspiration to write. I’d say i was just lazy to type them out and edit. I wrote out some articles i was going to publish in a journal i got in 2020, but somehow, i lost the journal. It’s been about twenty months now.Continue reading “Escribiendo”